The most common question I get asked in my work is: "HOW CAN I ACHIEVE INTERNAL 0RGASMS?" If I had a cent for every time someone asked me how to achieve internal 0rgasms.... well, let's just say I'd have a shitload of cents.
And it's true that I *have* spent much of the last decade teaching women to experience epic pleasure & 0rgasm internally, so asking me how to have internal orgasms is a valid question.
However... (and here's the controversial bit)
It's not always a *helpful* one.
Ok don't get me wrong, internal 0rgasms are great.
In my world, 0rgasms generally are a good thing. I'm officially pro-0rgasm and pro-pleasure. I love teaching women to sensitise the inside of their pelvic space so they can feel more pleasure in different places.
I'm *especially* a huge fan of epic mind-blowing cosmic cervical 0rgasms... but all 0rgasms are worthy and wonderful.
However, when 0rgasm becomes the main focus, when it becomes the goal of s-ex, when s-ex is about 'reaching' or 'achieving' 0rgasm... We lose sight of all the other beautiful worlds of intimacy available to us when we're simply present in our bodies during an intimate experience.
When we're enjoying EVERY moment, not just the 0rgasm.
We also risk our intimate life with a partner becoming transactional, where 0rgasm becomes almost a currency of exchange.
You know, the "I'll go down on you if you go down on me" kinda thing.
Tit for tat.
I'll give you yours if you give me mine.
Ever felt resentful because your partner came during sex and you didn't?
When 'achieving' 0rgasm is the goal of s-ex, we can limit most of our pleasure to this one little-tiny-window of peak intensity.
And peak 0rgasms are sure lovely, when you feel like them... but they're not *necessary* for deep intimacy or amaaaaazing s-exual experiences.
I had this realisation recently:
For me these days, whether or not I have a peak 0rgasm during s-ex means literally *nothing* about the quality of the s-ex or intimacy.
I'm a f**king 0rgasm teacher... shouldn't I care about that? (Continued in comments)
#pleasure #relating #intimacy #sensitivity #alive #coaching #sexed #love
Here I am in @thekimberleyaustralia with Brittany Jane @theearthbodymovement after an epic week of magic on her retreat with a powerful tribe of women.
Brit is a Somatic Ecologist (and I'm a Somatic Sexologist haha!). She created this retreat weaving together earth connection practices, ritual, indigenous culture, epic nature trips and embodiment... and it'll happen again next year, check out her work if you're interested.
It was exactly what I needed, just receiving and being a participant (as a reward for teaching on a long retreat in March!)
I'm feeling juiced up, cleared out and ready for what's unfolding now!
#somatic #retreat #women #kununurra #eastkimberley #earthconnection #gratitude #sisters #adventuretherapy #natureconnection #soulcraft #theworkthatreconnects
Wow... we're all done with the FREE 'Love Yo' Yoni' Mini-course... and what a delightful adventure it was! I've been loving seeing the shares in our Facebook group about people's experiences.
It always amazes me how powerful this work is.
Even just a TINY bit of embodied practice.
Even just 5-10 minutes a day.
All we need to do is take the time to feel.
The tools we've been exploring can support us, but it's up to us to pause and use them, even just for a moment.
I also love that the practices we've been exploring are super short and even if we do them for a couple of minutes, we'll see results: More sensitivity, pleasure, aliveness and relaxation in the pelvis... YES!
For those of you who joined me, THANK YOU!
It was a joy to share a little taste of my work with you.
For those who are waiting to see who were the winners of the scholarships to Yoni Club, I'll be drawing them tomorrow LIVE in our Facebook group where we've been sharing.
For those who missed out on the free mini-course, if you hop on my email list here: www.bonniebliss.co , then I'll send an email in the next couple of days with a link to all the videos so you can catch up.
For those who are curious about Yoni Club, the 3 month online journey for women - an adventure into the wild world within you... Do check out my website link above to see the info about it.
If you're interested to create a loving relationship with your pelvic space, your sexuality and your body, this could be for you. <3
DAY 6 - LOVE YO' YONI - FREE 7 DAY MINI COURSE -
Wow, this week has gone so fast - can't believe it's day 6 already!
Day 6's video is all about MY FAVOURITE THING EVER: The cervix. I talk about how awesome the cervix is, why I love it so much AND how it relates to sound. Then I guide you through a practice of using sound to activate pleasure, where things get a liiiitle bit ridiculous! ;-) I'm loving seeing so many of you willing to make silly sounds with me!! Want to join us? ‘Love Yo’ Yoni’ is a FREE 7 day embodied journey of exploring your pelvic space, self care and pleasure practice… delivered via a daily video to your email inbox, with some info & a short practice in it. 🌺🌺🌺 GIVEAWAY: There are also TWO full scholarships being given away to Yoni Club, my 3 month online program for women starting June 15th - for women who take part in this free course.
It's not too late to join... Sign up for the free course here (link in bio!) and you'll get an email tomorrow with all the info and links for previous days too!
Photo: My own personal Yoni portrait, painted by @yoni_goddess_art
The original hangs on the wall above my bed!
DAY 3 - LOVE YO' YONI - FREE 7 DAY MINI COURSE -
Your body is your instrument... how will you play it?! It's day 3... I'm really loving having so many of you join me for this little week-long adventure!
TODAY's video is all about self touch, why it's important, how we can get to know ourselves through exploring our own bodies, different ways we can touch ourselves for sensitising the body AND a guided self touch process where you'll see me touching my own body (fully-clothed of course!) in various ways and loving it (as pictured haha). Want to join us? ‘Love Yo’ Yoni’ is a FREE 7 day embodied journey of exploring your pelvic space, self care and pleasure practice… delivered via a daily video to your email inbox, with some info & a short practice in it. 🌷🌷🌷 GIVEAWAY: There are also TWO full scholarships being given away to Yoni Club, my 3 month online program for women starting June 15th - for women who take part in this free course.
It's not too late to join... Sign up for the free course (via link in bio - it takes 10 seconds!) and you'll get an email tomorrow with all the info and links for previous days too!
Image: Unknown! (found on pinterest)