Women: Your body is not IKEA flatpack furniture with a step-by-step instruction manual in 4 different languages.
No matter what they tell you, pleasure is not just a matter of inserting tab A into slot B (even if you do it repeatedly). In a world full of mainstream articles with names like "8 Mind-Blowing S*x Positions for Multiple 0rgasms", we can be forgiven for believing that if we just puzzle our bodies together in a certain way, if we just Tetris ourselves perfectly, if we only find the right *position* or *technique*, wildly-passionate-multi-0rgasmic-fireworks will ensue.
If we're honest though, we all know that experiencing epic pleasure could never be simply a set of physical instructions, hand strokes and touch techniques.
There is no foolproof guaranteed path to amazing 0rgasms.
We're complex, multi-layered beings, and so are our lovers.
What if we saw our body & our lovers' body as ever-unfolding landscapes to discover, rather than trying to carve out the same tried-and-tested reliable pathway to pleasure again and again?
How can we let go of what we think we like / want / need, and discover what we truly desire in each moment?
How can we create intimacy with our loved ones that honours our sexuaIity as being ALSO about trust, intimacy, openness, playfulness, curiosity, respect, heart connection, softness, wildness, relaxation, sensitivity and lots of other elements that aren't JUST technique-focused?
Technique is important as one part of the bigger picture of intimacy and s*x - I recommend not making it the main piece!
On that note:
If you'd like to awaken more epic pleasure in your body, sensitise yourself to feel exquisite aliveness in your hips and pelvis and create deep self care rituals to support you in daily life - I'm your gal and I made a thing for you!
Yoni Club - a 3 month journey for women into the wild world within your own pelvic space
Pelvic Wellness, Deep Self Care and Epic Pleasure
Guided practices and meditations, deliciously high quality video content, a FB group for support, Live calls to ask questions and share & SO many tools to keep forever.
Info at www.bonniebliss.co
Epic Yoni Art by @stephanie.rose.freeman
Women... DO YOU WANT A PELVIS THAT IS ALIVE WITH SPARKLES? Does the pathway to epic pleasure sometimes elude you?
Here are two simple equations that I've found IMMENSELY useful. Hopefully they're useful for you too.
Both of them underpin my work in various ways.
Stress = Tension = Tight muscles = Loss of Blood Flow = Loss of Sensitivity = Numbness = Lack of Pleasure = Not very exciting Orgasms.
Reducing Stress + Release of Physical Tension = Physical Relaxation = More Blood Flow = Exquisite Sensitivity = Epic Pleasure = Delicious Orgasmic Experiences.
It's not 'rocket surgery', as the saying goes. 🚀
When we relax tension in the pelvis, more blood flows, which brings sensitivity and access to subtle sensations which brings more pleasure and aliveness and yummy orgasms.
it's as simple and as difficult as that. 🤷♀️ So how do we actually DO IT?
Here's ONE way, that doesn't even involve taking your clothes off: (because I'm pro-nudity and yoni massage and all that, but it's cold in Melbourne and these Uggs aint coming off right now!) MOVE YOUR PELVIS in all the different ways.
Explore what's possible in terms of moving this part of you.
Roll around on the ground while feeling your sacrum.
Hump some cushions like a horny teenager.
Jiggle your butt. Circle your hips.
Enjoy randomly thrusting to music while you're cooking.
Get on your hands and knees and write your name with your vagina in the air behind you.
Do some subtle pelvic movement when you're in the queue at the post office.
Dance in your car, as wildly as is actually safe when you're operating a motor vehicle.
Get up from your desk and have dance breaks to some sexy grindy music.
Go for walks to get your psoas muscle juicy and happy.
Whatever it takes to make pelvic movement PART of your daily life.
If you'd like solid tools, practices and support to go deeper into your magical pelvic space,
I've Just opened the doors to Yoni Club, my 3 month online journey for women in pelvic wellness, deep self care and epic pleasure.
Super limited earlybird price on now!
Link in bio or
Art by @sarashakeel
So I'm getting some questions about my new Yoni Club online course, and lots of women excited to join us! 💃
Full disclosure: there's absolutely NO way I can promise that there'll be a f*cking RAINBOW coming out of your panties if you do this course. There's no magic (🌈) button...(dammit!) However, I DO have good reason to believe that if you take this 7 week adventure with Yoni Club, and you devote a few hours a week to exploring these practices and approaches to pelvic wellness, deep self care and epic pleasure.... You're VERY likely to feel:
Deeply connected to your yoni
Expansive aliveness in your hips and pelvic space
Access to delicious pleasure in daily life
Enhanced internal sensitivity & pleasure
In a loving relationship with your body
Inspired about embodied practices
I'm committed to making sure you have lots of tools and practices to go deeper and guided meditations and processes you can keep to use anytime.
I want you to get the most out of the deeper internal pelvic work, which is why the course is 7 weeks long. It's a whole journey.
The warm ups and foundational practices bring so much more sensitivity and embodied lushness when we get to the internal exploration.
Spots are filling QUICKLY for the only Yoni Club left for this year - starting early November and finishing before Christmas.
Right now the course is just $298 as I put the finishing touches on it, then when I do the official launch next year it will be priced higher - so this might be your only chance to get access to so much of my work for this kind of price.
FYI: If you buy this course, you'll have access to the updated version too when that is released!
Feel welcome to send me a PM if you have any questions after you've read the info on the website. (Link in bio!) (Image credit - INDIGO @indg0 )
ARE YOU ADDICTED TO USING A VIBRATOR? MY TOP TIPS:
1. REMEMBER THERE IS PLEASURE BEYOND THE CLIT
If you notice you're ONLY focusing on the clitoris - consider expanding your exploration to involve other areas too - the whole external and internal vaglna can be pleasureable (as well as the whole BODY!) but it needs to be woken up in order for you to feel more sensation. When we only focus on the clit all the time, it ensures that the other areas stay sleeping.
2. MIX IT UP A BIT FROM TIME TO TIME
If you're ONLY using exactly the same routine and pattern and position and clenching of muscles to experience the exact same sharp peak of pleasure - you might want to think about trying new things. You know what they say - 'It doesn't make sense to keep doing the same thing and expect a different result'. You could use the vibrator to awaken more internal areas as well (G-spot etc). Or put it on a slower setting and see if you can breath deeply, relax your body and let the pleasure expand, rather than clenching habitually.
3. TRY GIVING IT UP FOR A WHILE AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS
If you feel like you NEED the vibrator and you're relying on it for all your pleasure (and you're wanting to let go of the addictive pattern) I'd recommend committing to a period of time without using it. Just for an experiment. Say 21 days. Or a month. Or three. Giving yourself space to explore in different ways can let your nervous system reset itself so you're able to experience more pleasure from subtle sensations, rather than primarily fast mechanical ones.
4. USE A DIFFERENT KIND OF TOY OR GET 'HANDY'
Try a non-vibrating toy or really discover the deliciousness of what's possible with using your hands. Hands are amazing and often overlooked for the range of sensitivity we can explore with them. For other toys, I like the Therawand, or Ella by LELO - which are curved and can be used to massage the g-spot, a-spot, cervix, pelvic floor and other areas internally to release pelvic tension and increase sensitivity and pleasure. (that's my specialty!) If you want to increase your pleasure during sex and let go of addictive patterns- check out link in my bio 🌻
ART by @lilymosesart